If you don’t want to talk about your feelings

While talking about your cancer diagnosis is important, you may just not want to talk. For you, the best way to cope may be to stay busy and focused and just get on with day-to-day tasks. Trying to talk about feelings may add more stress when your energy is better used for dealing with cancer treatments.

You may decide that you don’t want to share your feelings with every person who asks. With casual friends or co-workers, it may be easier and more comfortable for you just to say a few words without getting into any details. When they ask about how you are feeling, you can give a brief but honest answer.

“I had a bad day yesterday, but I’m feeling better today. Thank you for asking.”

“I’m doing well, thank you. I appreciate your concern.”

Whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, we all have those days where we don’t want to be sociable, but we’re thrown into a social situation. Surviving those moments when you’re thrown to the wolves is tough—but if you can figure out why you don’t feel like socializing, it’s possible to overcome that feeling.

Not wanting to socialize comes from all sorts of reasons, and countering that is the only way to survive the experience. To that end, let’s look at a few reasons why you might not be in the mood to hit up a social event, and deal with them accordingly.

  • You’re Tired and Don’t Feel Up to It
  • There Will Be People There You Don’t Like
  • You Hate Small Talk
  • You’re Stressed Out or Preoccupied with Something Else

Some people just plain don’t like socializing, and that’s totally fine. But on those occasions when you’re forced out (or you force yourself out), knowing the reasons why you don’t want to socialize, and tackling them ahead of time, can help make the experience much more enjoyable.