Key Points to Help You Transition Through Change

Our inner journey is a much more private affair. Whether you travel far from home to find what you’re looking for, or stay right where you are, traveling deeply into the farthest recesses of your mind, the process of transition will be with you to offer guidance and assistance.

Those basic changes will inevitably necessitate many other changes in order to completely carry you into your new situation. On the other hand, the “call” may be your inner voice telling you it’s time to move again, often meaning that you are ready to ascend to a level higher than the one in which you’re currently situated.


It is the essential piece that defines change.

1.) Before you embark on your next transition, “map” your trip as best you can, knowing that things don’t always work out as you plan or hope they will. Have a realistic expectation and reasonable timetable for the change to occur through transition. Some transitions take a relatively short period of time; others years, sometimes decades, and in rare cases, a lifetime.

2.) Take the time to review what you’ve learned about change and your response to it to make the best possible choices and decisions, unless, of course, the change is one that places you in imminent danger, such as life-threatening illness, unexpected personal crisis, or natural disasters, where you have no choice but to take immediate action. In that case, once the necessary actions are taken and the dust finally settles.

3.) Create a life timeline reflecting major life transitions, as well as a loss timeline reflecting loss as the main theme of the transition.  Pay special attention to the main emotions for each of these transitions and how you expressed them through your feelings.

4.) Define your life themes and life lessons. This goes well beyond charting the chronological order, the “facts” of your life. Themes are easily recognizable, especially when they present as recurring and repetitive behaviors. Doing the same thing over and over again will not bring a different result, although sometimes, you may get lucky. What have you learned from life so far and how does that impact your life moving forward?

5.) Emotions and feelings are commonly thought to be the most reliable indicators of who you are and how you express yourself. Go a step beyond this to identify what you believe, or rather what you were programmed to believe. It’s a worthwhile exercise to take the time to question yourself about what you believe even if doing this ultimately doesn’t change your mind. Sometimes, the actions we take and the choices and decisions we make are based on ideas that no longer serve us (if they ever did in the first place). Going beyond limiting beliefs may pave the way for changing the way you transition moving forward.