Every failed relationship is painful. It hurts us in a way no physical wounds can…
The rule of every relationship is never ever be clingy. You have to learn to let go. I know it’s not easy. Letting go is actually the most crucial and the most difficult phase of every relationship. There’s just too many memories and forgetting these memories feels like an impossibility. Well, who wouldn’t find it hard to let go? You have invested so much time, money effort and tears to make the relationship work out only to lose it in just a moment. Of course it’s hard to let go! Who am I kidding? However, you also have to think of yourself honey. You ought to respect and value yourself more than anyone and being clingy indicates that your self value is way below the line. Do not cling to someone who doesn’t see your true value. It’s just not going to work.
Accept What Happened but Don’t Dwell on it
It is normal to be upset, mad and hurt after break-ups especially if it’s a third party issue. And you’d probably be mad for a long time. But if you stay mad you’d only stress yourself and you’d only make your world smaller. You have to accept that the relationship is over and don’t even try to pick up the pieces because you’d only hurt yourself. Acceptance is the first step to moving on and getting over that stupid ex, so its time for you to make that first step. Once you’ve accepted it, don’t dwell on it. Don’t over-think and over-analyze things. Don’t dwell on the “what’ifs or what might have beens” in the relationship. It’s fruitless. Believe me, I’ve tried and it only made me feel worse than I have ever been.
You can choose to avoid thinking about him or her and causing yourself suffering. It’s not easy, but you can do it.
A good way to think is by journaling about your feelings. It doesn’t have to be the best writing or even good writing at all. Just get it all out there. Imagine that as you write them down, the bad feelings and thoughts are leaving your body and sticking to the paper.
Don’t Look Back or Imagine “What If . . .”
Once the relationship is broken, it will never be the same again no matter how hard you try to piece it back together. There is a reason why the relationship didn’t work, and it’s rare that the relationship works the second time around.
If the deal breaker was unrelated to the couple (like a job or just a minor misunderstanding), it’s possible things might work out if the situation changes. But if you broke up because of individual differences or cheating, hon, you should think twice before getting involved with the same person again.
You need to look within yourself and be honest. If you think you can still trust the person wholeheartedly then go for it. But you have to be careful. Seriously—if he cheated on you once he’ll cheat on you again, that’s for sure! What I’m trying to say is, it’s better if you don’t look back. Less conflict, worry-free and new possibilities for love and better life. Science have proven that once a cheater is always a cheater so do yourself some favor and look for someone else who would see your true value…
What I’m trying to say is, it’s better if you don’t look back. You will have less inner conflict, fewer worries, and more possibilities for love and a better life.
Make New Memories
To get your ex out of your system, you have to create new memories. If you visited some places together in the past, you need to go to a new spot that you’ve never been before. Better yet, go to somewhere you went together but this time do it with your loved ones and friends. Eat foods you’ve never tasted before. Try a different sport.
Do something you never thought you’d do like bungee jumping, skydiving, ziplining, rock climbing, or anything else! If you create new memories, you will have a better chance at forgetting your ex, and in the process, you’ll discover many more things that you are capable of, things you never thought you could do.
Be thankful and learn from your past and use that to become a better and more lovable person. Realize that there are different kinds of people that we are meant to meet in life. Some of them are just passing by to give us lessons, some will make us stronger, some are meant to show us what real world is like and there are some who will stay with us forever.
Love yourself more and you’ll see that new love is coming along soon enough.