Three Emotional Mistakes That Will Limit Your Happiness

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Your emotions affect every decision you make. They impact your relationships, your work life, your psychological well-being, and your physical health. Studies show your emotional skills can even determine how successful you’ll be. 

Despite the huge significance emotions play in your life, there’s a good chance you don’t think about your feelings very often. Most people don’t.

People rarely talk about feelings and most of us weren’t ever taught how to deal with them.

As a psychotherapist, these are the most common emotional mistakes I see:

  1. Denying how you feel.

You probably wouldn’t deny that you had a cut on your leg. We tend to treat our physical wounds without a second thought. But, you might deny your emotional wounds.

Whether you minimize how you feel by saying, “I don’t really care that I didn’t get that job,” or you outright deny your emotions by saying, “No, I’m not angry,” most of us try to act like we’re not in pain sometimes. But, downplaying your emotions won’t make them go away.

Many people think suppressing their emotional wounds means they’re mentally strong. In reality, they’re just acting tough.  

It can be uncomfortable and embarrassing to admit your struggles. But acknowledging your emotions is key to making your best decisions—and it’s fundamental to addressing your psychological pain in a healthy way.

  1. Avoiding uncomfortable feelings.

Fear, sadness, embarrassment, and disappointed are just a few uncomfortable emotions that no one wants to feel. But some people go to great lengths avoiding those feelings and consequently, they limit their lives.

You have to allow yourself to feel uncomfortable to grow as an individual. And you have to experience negative emotions if you really want to experience positive feelings. Keep in mind that if you felt happy all the time, you wouldn’t appreciate it.

Every time you face uncomfortable situations head-on is an opportunity to gain confidence in yourself. When you learn you can tolerate discomfort, you’ll be more willing to face your fears and step outside your comfort zone.

  1. Chasing happiness.

Happiness is all the rage these days. Everyone is talking about all the things you should be doing right now to feel happier.

But, chasing happiness backfires. Insisting that you should feel happier will ruin the moment. The idea that you aren’t happy enough puts pressure on you to experience more joy in your life. And racing from one activity to the next trying to force happiness is one surefire way to feel worse about your life.

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